Fortune | FORTUNE 2024年10月11日
Richard Branson avoids gossip at all costs. Here’s why that might backfire on him.
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理查德·布兰森认为与人相处的能力对成功至关重要,他努力避免说人坏话。他的观点源于童年经历,父母的教育让他明白此举的不当。虽有人认为八卦并非全是负面的,且研究表明适当的八卦在某些方面有积极作用,但布兰森仍坚持远离八卦,认为大多数人是正派的,寻找他人的优点会让生活更美好。

🎤理查德·布兰森,维珍集团的联合创始人,认为成功的关键在于与人相处的能力,不仅要倾听和记录他人说话,还要跟进相关内容,这一软技能需要不断磨练才能真正发挥效果。

👨‍👩‍👦布兰森的父母对他影响深远,如果他说人坏话,父母会让他去镜子前,告诉他这样做会对自己产生不良影响。如今,布兰森认为这是非常好的建议,并努力避免在他人背后说坏话。

💬关于八卦,有研究表明其并非全是负面的。2019年的一项研究发现,中性八卦是最常见的交流形式,且运用得当可成为在职场中取得进步和建立联系的工具;2023年的另一项研究发现,八卦对参与者转移利益的意愿有显著影响。

🧬斯坦福和马里兰大学的研究人员发现,八卦是一种基于合作、了解他人声誉和保护自己的愿望而形成的自然循环。在某些情况下,八卦甚至可能是处于弱势地位的人获取优势的一种途径。

Richard Branson leads a life abstaining from one of its greatest pleasures: gossip. The billionaire co-founder of Virgin Group spoke with LinkedIn’s Daniel Roth regarding his habits he believes led to his success. “Everything comes back to people, people, people,” he said. “Are you good with people? Are you good at drawing out the best in people?” The soft skill requires honing to be truly effective. Branson pointed out that it’s not just about listening and writing down what someone says when they speak, but also following up on said notes.In his quest to connect with others, Branson strives to avoid speaking poorly of others. It all stems from his childhood. The entrepreneur explained that his parents would send him to the mirror if he ever spoke ill of anybody. Imparting a more literal lesson, Branson’s mother and father would “say how badly it reflected” on him to talk that way. Now, Branson views this all as “very good advice.” But some experts might beg to differ. Gossip can backfire, especially in the workplace where rumors could weaken trust and create a more paranoid culture. But most gossip isn’t all that commonly disparaging. Bracketing gossip into positive, negative, and neutral, researchers in a study published in 2019 found neutral gossip is the most common form of communication—and, if done well, it can be a tool towards getting ahead in the workplace and fostering connections. A separate study published in 2023 examined the ties towards gossip and resource sharing, finding “strong significant, context-relevant effects of gossip on participant willingness to transfer benefits, mediated by gossip’s effects on reputation.” It’s evolutionary, after all. Such talk is a natural cycle that sustains itself, based on a desire to cooperate, learn about others’ reputations, as well as safeguard one’s own — finds researchers from Stanford and the University of Maryland.“People become more concerned about affiliating with people who have good reputations (and will cooperate) and avoiding people who defect,” Michele Gelfand, one such researcher, wrote to the Stanford Daily.Talking smack also is a potential avenue towards getting ahead in a culture where you’re at the bottom of the food chain. “When we’re already feeling disempowered, or there’s not equity in our sense of power, this is a way we might go capture it,” Dr. Scott Lyons told Fortune’s Alexa Mikhail, explaining that it’s a “strategy to bring people close in without feeling the vulnerability of intimacy.”While Gelfand estimates that people spend an hour a day gossiping, she can count Branson out of the equation. “If I ever hear anybody gossiping, I will walk away because it’s just not good,” he said, explaining that he thinks “most people are thoroughly decent and life is much better if you look for that decency.”

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