本文作者分享了她在观看美剧《吉尔莫女孩》时，如何从单身母亲Lorelai Gilmore的角色中获得育儿灵感。作者在成为单身母亲后，重新观看这部剧，发现Lorelai与女儿Rory之间亲密如朋友的相处模式，以及她将平凡生活变得不凡的育儿方式，都为自己提供了重要的指导。作者深受启发，努力与自己的儿子建立信任和友谊，并通过生活中的小惊喜来增添乐趣，让她在独自育儿的道路上感到不再孤单，并从中汲取力量，成为更好的母亲。

🌟 亲子关系亦师亦友：作者从Lorelai Gilmore与女儿Rory的亲密关系中获得启发，认识到父母与子女之间也可以建立深厚的友谊，互相倾诉、支持，从而建立信任，成为彼此生命中重要的人。这种关系模式打破了传统的父母子女界限，展现了一种更具情感连接的育儿方式。

✨ 创造平凡中的惊喜：Lorelai擅长将日常小事变得充满趣味和意义，例如为女儿的工具装饰、变换晚餐形式等。这激励了作者在生活中寻找点滴的仪式感和惊喜，让单亲家庭的生活更加丰富多彩，也让孩子感受到父母的用心与关爱，培养感恩之心。

💖 育儿路上的精神指引：作为一位单身母亲，作者在面对育儿的种种挑战时，常常会设想“Lorelai会怎么做”。这种虚拟的榜样力量，为她提供了情感支持和决策参考，让她在独自摸索的育儿道路上，感受到一份安心和力量，相信自己正在为孩子做出最好的选择。

🤝 建立稳固的家庭联结：在作者眼中，Lorelai和Rory紧密的联系是父母与子女互动的美好典范。她们之间的相互信任和支持，不仅是母女关系，更是深刻的友谊，这种稳固的情感联结对于单亲家庭尤为重要，能够为孩子提供安全感和归属感。

When I watched "Gilmore Girls" as a single mom I felt inspired by Lorelai Gilmore's parenting.In many ways, the show became my guide for being a young single parent.I admire Lorelai's close relationship with her child and how she's also her friend.

When "Gilmore Girls" aired, I was in high school and had no interest in the show.

The series mostly followed quirky single mom Lorelai as she tried to build a career while maintaining a super-close relationship with her teenage daughter, Rory, who had her sights set on Harvard.

As an unruly teenager unsure of my future, I couldn't relate to either character.

Years later, though, when my son was almost 2, I caught an old rerun of the show. As a young single mom adjusting to parenting alone, I could suddenly see myself in Lorelai.

As I kept watching, I found "Gilmore Girls" felt like the guide to navigating motherhood on my own — one I desperately needed.

Lorelai showed me it's OK to be friends with your child

Back then, my son and I made up our entire primary family, so I felt that I needed to fill in a lot of gaps. Without siblings or another parent in our home, I wanted to be more than just his mom.

Some fans criticize Lorelai for being too much of a friend to Rory and not enough of a mother, but I didn't see it that way. It's nice that they hung out often, had fun, and confided in and supported each other.

I found their tight-knit bond to be exemplary of how a parent and child should interact. Their relationship became something I aspired to have with my own child.

As my kid's gotten older, we talk often, and I make sure he knows he can tell me anything. Lorelai and Rory did the same, and in the process, they built trust and became more than just mother and daughter.

In my eyes, their relationship proved being friends with your kid isn't unhealthy — it's something to hope for.

The show also inspired me to elevate our daily lives whenever I can

I liked Lorelai's habit of making the ordinary extraordinary for her kid, whether she was bedazzling Rory's hammer for her volunteer work or switching up dinner with an around-the-world sampling of takeout from local restaurants.

With that, "Gilmore Girls" also inspired me to find ways to make every day special for me and my son.

Finding ways to dress up our lives with things that made us smile or laugh helped keep us both grateful for what we had, which was mostly each other.

Sometimes I still ask myself what Lorelai would do

As a single parent, I felt like I was navigating so much of life alone — but Lorelai Gilmore has always been there for me as I've found my way as a mom.

It's easy for me to always imagine her doing what's best for Rory like I try to do for my son, which has made me feel like I had someone in my corner as I've made difficult decisions as a parent.

Although I know Lorelai is not a real person, "Gilmore Girls" has since become my parenting handbook on how to be the kind of mom I hope I am.